So this time around, here comes again the much dreaded MRI. I have been NOT looking forward to this appointment for days, weeks. For the most part I was able to put it out of my mind, and focus on other things. I have resigned to the fact that, this is just what it is, suck it up and deal. Which for the most part, I have. I have definitely made peace with this whole process. I’ve even reserved to make the most and best of it. So that’s where I am with it all, until MRI day. I don’t know, I’m not particularly fond of the CT scan either, but that doesn’t make me as anxious as MRI day, and it spans beyond the whole IV process, that’s not blissful either. Anyway, here I am a week out. I had previously planned that I was going to take something to help me relax and it would all be okay. Someone will drive me anyway, I’ll take some anti-anxiety stuff and it will all be fine and over before I know it, and I can get on with the rest of my day. Well! Here I am a week out and I learn that my little partner will not be able to join me because she has to work. Everyone has to work. I’d asked my sister to take a half day… and then, I got an epiphany! It’s okay to do this by yourself. Plan a treat for yourself when you’re done and use that to focus on and look forward to – I said an epiphany, only later to realize that God himself had orchestrated the whole thing! So, I said to my sister, never mind, I had a plan.
Here we are, MRI day, and it’s Valentine’s day! A day I like to call International Love day! So, I’m preparing for my appointment and I just have this sense of excitement, trust me, not about the appointment, but my plans afterwards. So, I’m running a bit behind the time I would have liked to leave out – Google told me traffic was light – that turned out not to be the case, and then it starts to snow! I think, that’s okay. The clock says one thing, but I’m not going to be late, it will be fine. I get to the garage in record time. I then think, it would be nice to get a really good, close parking spot. I’m going up the first ramp, slowly approaching the second ramp, but as I’m getting closer to narrowing the corner, a car pulls out, smack, dab, right on the end. I had to look twice to make sure it was a real spot – like mentally I had to pinch myself, it was perfect! I thought, okay God! I see how this day is going to go. This is going to be a nice, easy day, okay! I get to check in with 3 minutes to spare – I was surprised myself. I thought for sure I would probably be at least 5 minutes late. What happened? Did time stand still? Anyway, I check in get settled, and who calls me back for blood work? None other than my favorite phlebotomist! Yes, I have been doing this enough to have favorites! That was easy. Now for the next part. But I’m early, I need a mental minute, I’m not ready to be seated and waiting in the actual radiology area. On my way to the cafeteria I stumble upon the most beautiful photography artwork. Captivating! I felt like those pictures were put there at that moment, just for me. I have walked these halls, a fair amount of times, and if the artwork was there before, I did not recall, and if it was, it did not stand out to me like it did that day. So, I admire the art, grab a soda (just to be doing something) and make my way back to radiology.
Step one, the IV. I brace myself and tell myself, okay this will be fine, one poke and you’ll be done. Dude seems pretty secure and knows what he’s doing. So I steady my arm, hum a tune, pinch, stick, tape, done! Okay, that wasn’t too bad, made it through on point of anxiety.
Now, its’ almost time for the machine part, but this is where they wand you down to make sure you have no metals in you or on you. My process is going well until he gets to my head. Now I made sure, that I had no bobby pins in my hair. Did a bit of extra gluing to make sure my wig was glued on nice and tight. So, here we go. Beep-beep-beep-beep! Something is happening here. Is it my ponytail holder? Perhaps. So, I remove the ponytail holder. He wands again. Beep-beep-beep-beep! There’s something happening over here, behind your ear – OH WAIT. The wig has plastic combs Jesus! Oh wow! So, I’m like “do I need to take it off”. Yes. Oh wow, okay. I go back into the dressing room to remove my hair. I look in the mirror, remove my hair, wrap my scarf around my head and put on a shower cap. I look in the mirror and I see that same beautiful girl starring back at me. Now some of you who have been following along on my journey, know that this is a HUGE source of contention for me. I my hair has been coming off gradually and I knew that eventually I would have to go to full blown wigs. I have never liked wearing whole wigs. I don’t’ like feeling trapped in my hair, or hair touching me or the inability to put my hair up! But I was at a point where, again, I had to make peace with it. I sat in bed crying one day, because I knew in a matter of days, that I would reach that part on this journey. I said okay, this is where you are, so something good is going to come out of this for you. You will find a style that you absolutely love and can stand. My daughter walks in and asks what’s wrong. I tell her about the wig situation and how I love wearing my braids and my hair up – she matter-of-factly says, “mom they have full lace braid wigs that you can wear and style anyway you want.” WHAT??? We go to YouTube and a whole new world opens up for me. I was so super excited when it first arrived! It was so cute and I was so happy, and I felt like this happened just for me, for such a time as this. Okay, back to the appointment.
Step two, the machine! Bracing myself. There’s a part of me that fears small places, but I know it’s mental and very much on the surface of who I am and what I am made of. So, I get prepped and get ready to slide into the machine, close my eyes, it’s going to be fine. Thirty minutes – it’s going to be fine. WAIT! Pull me out. One of the techs said, “would you like to mirror to help you see outside?” At first, I declined, because I didn’t know what to expect. But then I thought, wait – what is the mirror! OH, MY LORD, she put the mirror on and I swear the heavens opened up, literally! It was like magic. I no longer felt that “closed in” feeling. I could actually see outside. People walking around, like really looking out the window. It saved my whole life during that test. Okay, that was done, good looking out God. Step 3, the third and final step – the contrast! This is the part where I say to myself, “remember, you’re not going to puke.” “You’re not going to puke.” Contrast goes in slowly, “you’re not going to puke”. Okay, maybe I won’t feel like I have to puke this time and I’m not really going to…. Hits the call button, help, I’m going to puke! Before I get pulled out, I’m fine. I’m really not going to puke and that puke feeling passes! Fifteen more minutes of MRI noise and action-packed movies playing in my head to the noise. Finally, it’s all over and everything is good in the world. I left Siedman, and, the sun – the WHOLE sun comes out! All the way out! Like a big huge smile from the Heavens! I said, “God, can you be any more amazing today”?
Now I will tell you something that I realized. At my last CT scan appointment a few months back, it was awful. Not the appointment itself, or the outcome, just during the IV part, right before the scan. The scans last about 5 to 10 minutes. You have to get a whole IV for 5 to 10 minutes. Okay. Well, at this particular appointment, I had so many reservations, and I have no idea why. I should be used to this. But, I don’t care if you go five, ten, twenty or a hundred times, I don’t think it’s something you “get used to”. You just make peace in your mind, that, this is what’s happening right now, this is what it is. The key is to think this to your best advantage. Mentally I do not know where I was that day, and that’s okay. You are where you are when you’re there.
Overall, it was a lovely day! I saw a near and dear friend, mentor (family) who showed up just like an angels on the scene. It was the embrace I needed at that time and God only knew. I saw lots of wonderful art in the hospital and at the museum. (I now know the art was there just for me, especially and specifically, because when I went back just a few days later it was already changed into something else). The sun came out, big, bold and beautiful upon my exit of Seidman, I had a nice lunch with myself – overall just a very lovely day! (And for all of that, and every other bonus on and behind the scenes I am truly, truly, thankful & grateful). Next Scan in 3 months – will keep you posted! *wink*